I love the quote by Rikki Rogers “Strength Doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.”
There has been many seasons of my life thus far, where I thought “How am I ever going to get through this one?” Then I am reminded of “that time”. You know that one point in time where you thought the same thing, and hey we made it through that time – so Bring It! You see, when you can reflect on the times of your past where you have overcome some big obstacles, you will find the strength from within to battle the mountain that sits in front of you. Can I be a little transparent with you for a moment? When I was 19 years old, 7 months pregnant with my first little angel I received the most heart breaking call of my life! My mom had taken her life – I had no idea how I was ever going to rise above that. Now, my mom and I didn’t have the best relationship (not like the mother daughter relationships you see on TV anyway). Ours was covered in dysfunction and constant heartbreak, but that did not matter – this call was one that brought me such a whirlwind of emotions that has taken me years to battle through. I share this piece of my life with you so you can be encouraged, that no matter what you are going through, you have the ability to rise above it!
Let me share a few ideas to help you get started
1. Reflect on the tough times you’ve had before. Ask yourself how you got through it. What did you do? What did you think? What did you tell yourself? Your resilience will become evident as you do this exercise and give you real hope for the future in dealing with other obstacles.
- Recognize that you’ve made it through those difficult situations. Then think about what you’re experiencing right now. Is the current situation similar to or much different from your other tough times? Use what you’ve learned from your past challenges.
2. Learn to talk to yourself in positive, encouraging ways. This will help you build up your inner strength.
- As if speaking to your own best friend, tell yourself what will most help and encourage you. What do you most want to hear? What do you need to hear to help gather your strength? Is there something specific you’re hoping will happen?
- Practice providing yourself with encouraging, uplifting messages. The messages you give yourself can be less than helpful or they can propel you through the roughest of circumstances.
- Talking to yourself with respect, care and positivity builds your inner strength so it’s there when you need it. When the going gets tough, you’ll have yourself to fall back on.
3. Allow yourself time to think through whatever the situation is. It’s okay to feel confused.
- What are your ideas about how to weather the storm? Examine all the solutions you can come up with. Explain to yourself what you’ll do and how you’ll do it.
- A sense of your own resourcefulness can be found in your ability to problem-solve through challenging situations.
4. Consider who you regard as role models or mentors. You selected those people because you respect and admire them. They’re strong enough people that you want to emulate them.
- Think about their strength of character. How do you know they have it? What does that strength look like? How does it manifest?
5. Reflect on what you’ve done or been through that you’re most proud of. Was it making it through college although you had to work while you attended classes? Maybe it was moving out on your own for the first time and figuring out you could take care of yourself.
- Even though you might have felt afraid, uncomfortable, lost, or confused, you discovered your internal resources and made it through those experiences.
- When you examine what you did to handle those situations and how you made it through, you’ll recall your inner strength.
- You can get in touch with your own resourcefulness by re-visiting those events that bring you pride.
6. Sometimes, you’ve just got to “fake it till you make it.” or the one I’ve learned recently and fell in love with right away is “Faith it till You Make it!” You can probably recall a time when you felt afraid or weren’t sure you could succeed, but you stood up and met the challenge head on. Faith has been the strength I needed to get through my darkest days, I know it will give you the same strength you need today to face the battle head on!
Discovering your inner strength is possible, even in the toughest of times. Following the steps above will help you discover your courage and resourcefulness. And with this self-understanding, you can handle anything!